Reason, Season, Lifetime

By: Brian A. "Drew" Chalker

People always come into your life for a reason, a season and a lifetime. When you figure out which it is, you know exactly what to do.

When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed outwardly or inwardly. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, or to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally, or even spiritually. They may seem like a godsend to you, and they are. They are there for a reason,you need them to be. Then, without any wrong doing on your part or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they die, Sometimes they just walk away. Sometimes they act up or out and force you to take a stand. What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilleed; their work is done. The prayer you sent up has been answered and it is now time to move on.
When people come into your life for a SEASON, it is because your turn has come to share, grow, or learn. They may bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it! It is real! But, only for a season. And like Spring turns to Summer and Summer to Fall, the season eventually ends.

LIFETIME, relationships teach you a lifetime of lessons; those things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person/people (anyway);, and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas in your life. It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant. Thank you for being part of my life.....

There Is A Reason For Everything

I truly believe this with my whole heart but there are times like now when I have a very hard time following it. Things are just not happening the way I thought they would or how I was told they would and I know there is someone who has a higher hand in this but timing is everything. That timing is off and I'm scared to death that things will not be in place when it needs to be.

For as long as I can remember I've worried about things and I've never had much patients but that is just who I am. Though I try very hard not to worry and to have patients it usually never works to my favor.

So as I sit here worrying about everything in my future and being impatient, I'm trying to hand everything over to "The Higher Power" so that I can be free from these burdens and be able to let happen what ever needs to happen.

Almost Half Way Done

I can't believe it, this pregnancy is almost half way done already, where did the time go? Can't wait to meet Ellie but I've learned from the other two she can stay put as long as she needs to as much as I want to meet her, I'm in no hurry! Besides that gives Kaleb a bit more time as well to still be the baby.

It's hard looking at him with his still babyish face and knowing he won't be the baby much longer. He still loves his momma time and can't stand when someone gets in the way of that. I hate to take that away from him too since I'll admit I still need my Kaleb cuddle time.

Andre is adjusting well to Kaleb and will be in school for the most part of Ellie's new days so I don't foresee much of an issue with him and he still gets his special time before bed with both daddy and I.

It's hard to imagine adding another one to the mix right now even though it's already happening especially with it being a girl, my gosh what do I do with a girl? The boys seem so easy, cut and dry and having a girl scares me. I've heard some scary stories from those who have both and I just pray that Ellie is milid compared to some of the things I've heard LOL. I'm sure we will be fine and we will navigate our way with her just like we have the boys but never the less the unknown is still scary.

I've Been Tagged

Thanks Shirley



1. .What were you doing 10 years ago? I was in my sophmore year of highschool and babysitting for a wonderful family. Isn't it bad that I wasn't doing anything else LOL.



2. What 5 things are on your to-do list for today? Take the kids to daycare, go to work, pick kids up, come home and lay them down for naps, check my oh so loved fourms!


3. Snacks you enjoy? ice cream, Dove chocolate bars, cookies on occasion


4. Places you have lived? Hmmm big mover here! Leslie Mi, Big Rapids Mi, Jackson Mi, LOL.



5. what are 5 things you would do if you were a billionaire? Bills paid off, vacation, house, cars and bank it!

Tagging
Zoe "I've Come Undone"
Becky "Parenting with whine"

And So The Family Grows

So the results are in, the new addition to the family will be a baby girl named Ellen Jean and we will call her Ellie! We are very excited but nervous at the same time. We know what to do with little boys now what do we do with little girls? Guess we will find out in the weeks to come!

Spices That Have Seasoned My Life

Isn't it amazing the many different people that pass through our lives in the short amount to time that we are here on this earth. I find myself amazed at the different stages of my life and the people that come with it. Some have stayed for the whole thing and some and come and gone when the time is right.

I'm thankful for each and every one of those people who have passed through. Though the situation may not have been good they were still here for a reason and taught me something about myself and life in general.

I love each and every person who is in my life at this time. They all are wonderful to me in all different ways. I love that I get to see many on a weekly basis and most I talk to at least weekly if not daily.

What a journey this thing called life is and what makes the journey sweet are the people that throw thier different spices in.

Best Friends

I could not ask for anything more from my two boys. I thank God daily that when I prayed for a girl while pregnant with Kaleb he did not answer those prayers. These two are the best of friends. Andre says on a daily basis "Kaleb you are my bestfriend". Seriously is there anything better? Not in my book.

Andre begs for me to get Kaleb down from the highchair so that "he can come play with me in my room". "Come on Kaleb lets go play in my room". Not long after that I hear outbursts of child laughter. The kind of laughter where you as a mom sit and just listen for a moment and take it all in.

Of course there are always those small moments where one or the other wants to be left alone and they get snippy with each other but when those moments pass they are back to being buddies and hard a play.

Andre can make Kaleb laugh like no other. To watch them interact with each other amazes me. The things that Andre teaches Kaleb is never ending and what Kaleb picks up from Andre is unbeliveable.

As I type this I'm listening to Andre sing "Twinkle Twinkle Little Star" to Kaleb and I'm sure that Kaleb is looking at him with those huge blue eyes and dancing away, loving every min of his brother singing to him as he has done since we brought him home.