The Winding Path

As I was talking to a friend today I realized something about myself, it was one of those " ah ha" moments that I've looked for, for quite awhile and could never put my finger on what was going on with me until this conversation today. I won't disclose the friend or the conversation as that is not important what is important is the finding and the question that now follows along with it.

We all have things about ourselves that we love, like, dislike, hate, would change, could live without or is neither here nor there. I'm no different in this department and I can come up with more things I dislike about myself then things I like or love which I'm working on.

Lately I've been trying to focus on what I do like about myself what I think I do well and what I think I have to offer any type of relationship whether it be a friendship or any other. Some of what I do well can be a down fall as well if I let it go to far which is something that I'm also working on but that is for another time.

So anyway as the conversation progressed today and the wheels are spinning in my head I realize that while I like that I'm a good person, with a big heart and have a lot to offer others as far as a friendship goes I never ever feel "good" enough for them. I ALWAYS feel inadequate. Now the only connecting factor in all of these relationships is me so if I was to bet I would bet that I make myself feel this way either that or I find some crappy people and while not all have been winners 99% of them have their heart in the right place.

Now, why do I do this? Why do I always feel like who I am isn't "good enough" to people. I've had people tell my I'm gorgeous and I wonder what they want or know they said that because they are my friends not because I think I really am.(Which I'm doing better on I do tend to think I have some pretty days few and far between). I have people tell me I'm smart and the only thing I think I'm good at is kids, babies and sickness because I've taught myself a lot from having sick kids hahaha. Other then that I have no degree, I took the hard path of being young with no direction and drive, had kids and now I'm thinking how do I build myself up now when I should have done that years ago while building my beautiful children up?

Hahaha direction, who the heck has direction now? I have to pick something and go with it before I'm 80 and wonder where the time went. God has a funny way of answering our questions but putting another in it's place.

Complicated but Simple

Life as I knew it no longer exist. So many things have changed, where the kids and I live my life status, where my life is going and where I thought it was going. The people who I thought were going to be there and who are not, the ones who I never thought were going to be there and are. While things get complicated they get simpler also how that makes any sense I don't know but it does and it works so I go with the flow.

I feel used and abused, I feel as though I'm good enough to help and yet my mistakes over come the good in my heart. I feel like while everyone around me makes the same mistakes and I look past it I'm condemned. While I'm upset about this I'm uplifted cause the drama is gone. Maybe we were a toxic relationship and never knew it till now I don't know.

I navigate through the best I can in a place where I know nothing about. Its the hardest thing I've ever done and I'm only trying to do what is best for my innocent children involved. I'm not even sure if I really know whats best I know God does so I'm leaving it in his hands to guid me.

Sheeding layers of love one peice at a time.

Wow a lot has happened this summer, emotions have ran high and continue to. Its amazing to me how divorce can divide a family when they aren't the ones that are going through it. As an outsider looking in I strive to stay open minded there is always his side, her side, and the truth. It's not my place to pick sides or to judge. This all hits a little to close to home for me and it seems to be driving an even bigger wedge in my life.

Life is never perfect, humans are never perfect and while we can and strive to make well with what we have it sometimes is just not enough. Hearts are broken, trust is broken, faith is broken and yet you continue to try but for how long? When do you say we are better apart? Others say counsling, work at it to fix it but at some point you feel like why? I've done everything I know to do, I've put faith were it belong in God's hands and yet here we are. Where do you go from here?

Change

There is no getting around change it just happens but can someone truly change? I'm not so sure, I've seen them try and try and yet who they really are at some point always peeks through. What do you do? You can't except the behavior but after so long do you just move on? Do you stay and trust that some day they will get to where they want to be and where you want to be.

Which brings me to the trust issue, once its been broken do you trust that person again or walk away. I used to be very forgiving and now I can't bring myself to forgive, move on and trust that it won't happen again.

There is going to be so much change coming it is really scary.

This Person

Who is this person looking back at me in the mirror? I have no idea, I'm in a place in my life where I seem to swing in limbo waiting for a string to break and leave me in a steady place. Why am I having such a hard time? Will I ever know who I am and be proud of who I am? There are parts of me I'm proud of and there are parts of me that are shameful.

I'm less then stellar these days, I'm surprised people still like me honestly or maybe they just put up with me who knows. I know that the way I feel right now sucks so while I'm trying to keep my head above water I feel as though I'm a shell of a person. I'm drained mentally and physically, I just want to walk away.

Is This What I Want?

I'm trying to make life decisions and I'm always asking myself or someone else is asking are you sure this is what you want? I don't know and even if I have to chance to see I'm asked other questions. Do I feel this is right yeah, is there any part of me that feels wrong a little one because I'm shattering a dream of mine and someone Else's. Do I wish I could find the answers now and move on? More then anyone knows.

I'm sorry for being so messed up, I really am.

Calgon Take Me Away

Good Heavens get me out of here. I just can't deal with it today, anxiety is through the roof children are pissy and I'm beyond over it with other aspects of my life. Seriously I need to get out of here maybe its because I can't get Florida out of my head who knows. I miss it there terribly it holds my youth, my grandmother, wonderful times and it lets me let go of reality for a short time.

I'm being smothered, I'm trying to make it work and yet I still feel the same way, WTH is wrong with me? I feel so messed up in the head all the time there are days when its just not worth it to me. Whatever the world continues to turn and life goes on by God's good grace. At some point I will not be troubled any more, I'll be free and I'll know who I am.